A Conversation with Anya —Your Christian Matchmaker
With a foundation shaped by a Christian upbringing and a passion for human connection, Anya brings depth and clarity to modern matchmaking. Her expertise in relationship dynamics, human design, and dating patterns helps clients find lasting love while growing personally along the way. Compassionate and results-driven, she creates a supportive space where meaningful connections can truly thrive.
Interview Questions & Answers
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“How did you become a matchmaker?”
“I was studying relationship dynamics, attachment styles, and why people choose certain partners and relationship structures. While traveling, I met someone in the matchmaking field who encouraged me to apply after a few great conversations. I have loved it ever since. It truly feels like a career that chose me.”
"Can you describe your matchmaking style?"
“Dating can feel overwhelming when you don’t have the right approach. My style focuses on helping clients break free from what’s holding them back so they can attract the love they truly desire. I work closely with each person to uncover the difference between what they want and what they need in a lifelong partner. While I am not a magician, my approach helps clients grow and date with high value and self-respect. Through it all, I stay resilient and fully committed to finding the best possible match for every client.”
"What’s the one question you ask matchmaking clients to narrow down their must-haves in a potential partner?"
“I ask clients to complete this sentence: "I would rather be single than be with someone who ___." Whatever they put in the blank reveals what is truly important to them. For example, if someone says, "I would rather be single than be with someone who smokes," it tells me that smoking is a dealbreaker for them.”
"Is there a corresponding question or answer you are looking for from matches that clarifies they may be a good match for your client?"
“Determining if a match is a great fit involves many nuances. I use a six-level approach that considers priorities, preferences, values, lifestyle, relationship readiness, and romantic direction for each person. I also rely on my intuition, developed through experience and deep understanding of my clients, to assess compatibility on a meaningful level.”
"What is the best conversation starter you’ve ever used or received?"
“Tell me something I’d be surprised to know about you. Or, if you had unlimited money, what would you do?”
"What is something that you wish more people asked on first dates?"
“First dates are about discovering if there’s a genuine connection, so ditch the interview mindset. Focus on having fun, flirting a little, smiling, relaxing, and taking the pressure off yourself to figure out if this person is the one. That clarity will come with time.
Dating should be enjoyable. When you show up ready to have a good time, no matter the outcome, you naturally become more attractive and present. That’s where real connection begins—not by chasing the future, but by being fully here, right now.”
“What do you think increases the likelihood of a second date?”
“It should be a mutual yes. You can’t force someone to like you so focus on showing up as your authentic best self and let go of the outcome. Stay curious about your date—everyone’s favorite topic is themselves. The right people will want to see you again for exactly who you are.”
“What is a small dating gesture that instantly makes you feel appreciated?”
“I love when someone expresses that they had a wonderful time and shows excitement about seeing each other again. A simple message like, “Thank you so much for dinner. I’d love to keep getting to know you. When is a good time for you?” means a lot.”
"If someone is debating whether to use a matchmaker, how do you guide them?"
“Working with a matchmaker is a unique and empowering experience. We help you clarify what truly matters in a partner, filter through the noise to find high-quality matches, and support you through the ups and downs of dating. We coach you, gather feedback, and fine-tune the process every step of the way. If you’re ready to show up as your best self and date with intention, a matchmaker can be your greatest ally.”
"How do you vet or screen potential matches?"
“I use a comprehensive, multi-step process to ensure matches align with your values and relationship goals. It starts with in-depth conversations to understand their past relationships, lifestyle, values, and what they’re genuinely seeking. Then I assess compatibility across areas like personality, communication style, long-term goals, and readiness for commitment. I also take into account feedback from both you and your matches to continually refine the process. The goal is to move beyond check boxes and spark something meaningful and lasting.”
"What is the key quality someone should look for in a matchmaker?"
“Look for a matchmaker who will challenge you, not just say “yes” to everything you ask for. Be open to feedback and willing to consider your matchmaker’s suggestions. A great matchmaker focuses on what you need, not just what you want. Every date teaches them more about you, so choose someone you feel comfortable being honest with—especially when it’s not easy.”
"How do you know when it is time to introduce a new match to your client?"
“The search can take time, but once I find someone who feels like a genuinely strong fit, we move forward and plan a date. I don’t believe in waiting unnecessarily—dating is often a numbers game, and the more people you meet, the more chances you have to find the right one for you.”
"Do you specialize in a particular type of client or relationship goal?"
“I work with individuals across all backgrounds, relationship goals, and love styles. What I enjoy most is working with clients who are open to self-reflection—because that inner work is what truly sets the foundation for lasting, meaningful connections.”
"What is your favorite thing about being a matchmaker?"
“I love helping people find love—whether that means deepening their relationship with themselves or connecting with a potential life partner. The best part is seeing two people light up with excitement to keep getting to know each other.”
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Common questions about Christian Mingle matchmaking
Frequently Asked Questions
We understand you might have questions about our service. Here are answers to what people typically ask:
What makes Christian Mingle Matchmaking different from dating websites?
Instead of swiping alone, your personal Matchmaker is like a teammate, helping find quality matches to arranging introductions via quick, easy video dates. All you have to do is focus on making meaningful connections.
I'm not comfortable with technology. Is this for me?
Absolutely. Our platform is designed to be easy and intuitive no matter how tech-savvy you are.
How do you verify members?
Matchmakers personally interview every match they recommend, to make sure their profiles are accurate and authentic.
How does the video meeting process work?
We arrange comfortable video conversations from your home. Just sit back, relax, and let your Matchmaker find people to introduce you to.
What kind of support do you provide?
You receive:
• Personal guidance from your dedicated Matchmaker
• Regular communication on how the search is going
• Ongoing support and feedback on dates
How long does it typically take to meet people?
Everyone's journey is different, and we focus on quality over speed. Your Matchmaker will work at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
Who is this service for?
Christian Mingle Matchmaking is primarily for busy professionals that want to find love with the help of a dedicated matchmaker with access to the largest database of Christian singles.
What are the next steps after I purchase Christian Mingle Matchmaking?
After purchasing Christian Mingle Matchmaking, our matchmaker will arrange an intake call with you. This is to better comprehend your preferences and the type of person you're interested in meeting.
Is the setup process and matchmaking questions time-consuming?
The setup process is straightforward and efficient. It involves filling out your profile and preferences, then speaking with the matchmaker for the formal intake process, which typically takes between 30-45 minutes.
Can I specify particular attributes or interests for my matches?
Absolutely. During your conversation with the elite matchmaker, you'll have the opportunity to define specific attributes and interests you're looking for in potential matches.
Can I adjust my preferences after starting the service?
Certainly. It's common for clients to refine their preferences as they progress. Your matchmaker will work closely with you, noting what is and isn't effective in your search for your ideal match.
How does the matchmaker determine suitable matches for me?
Our experienced matchmakers consider your preferences, interests, and core values when interviewing potential prospects to assess compatibility and find your ideal match.
What happens if I don't get any matches I like?
If no matches are found, we'll reevaluate your preferences and collaborate with you to potentially broaden the pool of potential matches.
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